It's come to that time of year where it's a fresh start, a fresh opportunity to do something you've always wanted to do, setting yourself goals and resolutions and figuring out how you want this year to be different to the last. I am not making resolutions this year, instead here are 10 things that you should think about and remind yourself everyday instead, no matter your age, what you're currently doing in your life or what year it is, if you go by things a certain way you will always have a great year and live a happy and positive life.
1. If you fall, get back up- Most set backs in life don't last long if you don't give them the chance to. If something knocks you back, come back even harder...it will be worth it.
2. Block the hate- People are always going to have something negative to say about what you do but remember for every negative comment or person there's plenty more positive ones so only focus on them. If you focus on the negative it will eat you up.
3. Love yourself (starts humming Justin Bieber) - You only have one life, in the body you're in. Don't compare yourself to others, everybody is different and there are so many reasons to like the person you are. Embrace your body, embrace your weirdness, embrace the skills you have because they make you YOU. Too many people pick at themselves, I am guilty for this. Finding my faults and focusing on them when really I should be looking at the good things I do and have and if I have a problem with something in myself, change it, not beat yourself up about it.
4. Take the mask off- If you have a problem or if you're feeling low in yourself don't hide it away and push it to one side. It will only get worse and the more you bottle it up the harder it will bite back. It might feel good to push feelings aside temporally but in the long run it will only come back. Talk about how you're feeling to people who love you because so many people really do care! Be honest with yourself and be honest with others around you. 5. Challenge yourself- This doesn't have to be something daunting like climbing a mountain, but if that's your thing then well done...I couldn't do it. But give yourself a task, whether it be big or small, sorting through that closet you've been putting off for weeks, contacting someone you should have a long time ago the list could go on but make sure it means something to you and don't forget to reward yourself after! 6. Be a good person- Helping others always gives me a lovely warm feeling after doing so, having that positivity running through your body can only make you a happier person. It can be something so simple like helping someone with a suitcase on the underground or just giving someone the time to listen to what's going on in their life and their problems. It will not only help the other person but will reflect on your mood. And imagine if you did something small nearly everyday, if everybody did that then what a happy world we would live in! 7. Say hello- Living in London is such a huge change from living up north, I notice it more and more when I visit home that in the south people aren't as friendly with each other. That doesn't mean that people in the south aren't wonderful people, it's just such a fast moving city that people's brains are mostly occupied with the hectic lifestyle. But it doesn't really take any energy or time out of your day to give a stranger a smile, or say hello, or thank them! In the north when you get on public transport at least one person will acknowledge you and persosally it always makes me feel happy when they do. So when you're sat on the tube don't be ignorant to everyone around you, a person in your carriage could be having the worst day and a warming friendly smile can go along way. Also thanking people, whether it be getting off a bus or someone who has just served you in the shop, thank them! The smile on their face after will be contagious. 8. Life's tough- You may think you have the worst life, you want a bigger home, you want those pair of boots you saw last week but can't afford them. Stop dwelling on things you can't have or want that is making you feel like a slight failure and that you want better. If you have a roof over your head and someone who loves you whether it be family, friends or a partner, that's more than some people have in this world. So many tragedies go on day to day and we get too wrapped up in ourselves to realise we are lucky and life could be a hell of a lot worse. Be thankful for your surroundings, be thankful for your health, be thankful you can have daily meals, be thankful you have people around you that care and stop focusing on the materialistic things in life. I'm not saying don't focus on materialistic things in life at all because retail therapy is always nice but don't make it such a big part of your life!
9. Stop pushing- Yes, you have to work very hard for things in life and if it's something you want then it's right to put all the effort in, but don't push yourself too far. I see so many people pushing themselves to the extreme to achieve something they want but always remember to slow down from time to time. Get a good nights rest that you haven't had in so long, go for a walk to clear your mind, anything that can take the burden off your shoulders for even an hour or so will help in the long run and you will enjoy the outcome in the end a lot more to know you haven't made yourself poorly with stress getting there. It's ok to have a chill out day, they're as important as having productive days. You will probably think a lot clearer about the task ahead also if you step out of it for a little while so it's a win win! 10. Be HAPPY!- This is the MOST important one. If you hate your job and it's making you start to doubt yourself, leave. If you're holding onto someone in your life that is making it negative, block them out, only spend time with people that make you happy and want to see you successful in life, if someone wants to see you fail then they really are irrelevant. Let go of the past, whatever it may be if you hold onto things that is effecting your present take the leap and put it behind you. There are so many other ways to make yourself happy but each person has their own preferences, make sure you try to always be at your happiest, getting there might be a struggle but nothing great is easy. Always make your own happiness a priority, yes it is nice to help people but sometimes you have to be a tiny bit selfish. Not selfish in a way to hurt other people but selfish as in you take a moment to take care of yourself and focus on your own happiness for once. Also, eat pizza (in moderation of course) and don't feel guilty for it..pizza makes everyone happy!
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Great post. Am going to make sure that/ certain person reads this! Xxxx
ReplyDeleteI hope it helps! :) xxx
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